DIVORCE AND REMARRYING

Speaking from the Christian point of view, I was told that divorcees are to remain single until they transit to either heaven or hell or either one of the former spouses die.

Quite perplexing if you ask me cause what then happens to a person who is divorced and the said ex has moved on and remarried?

Is this person supposed to sit down and wait for their remarried ex to enjoy their marriage and die before they can live their life to the fullest, I mean come on we all know finding love is one of life’s greatest highs.

I mean is this really what God wants or what religion mandates?

I know someone who got divorced and refused to marry again. His ex, however, is happily married (according to her instagram). His response each time he is questioned is that it is against the belief of God to remarry after a divorce. And at 49, he has no child, no wife, is still adamant about his decision but occasionally complains of loneliness.

I know of another person who was in-love with a divorced man but her parents were against the relationship on the grounds that it is a sin and the punishment is hell.

Let me bring this home, my mom has remained unmarried because of this reason too, to her it is a sin.

Now let’s visit the Bible our guide as Christians. The bible permits divorce but only on the grounds of adultery. In Matthew 5:32, it is stated that the sinful spouse is not suppose to remarry and anyone that marries the sinful spouse commits adultery In 1 corinthians 7:15, the bible permits release to the
faithful spouse to leave the sinful partner when all means to bring the sinful partner to repentance has been exhausted, in this case there is freedom from bondage.
So what happens to victims of domestic violence or abuse are they to remain single too after escaping such horror? or remain married because the bible permits adultery as the only grounds for divorce.

The fear of no one would want me has made many remain in bad marriages, most times with fatal outcomes.

Honestly this is one of reasons why individuals need not rush into marriage, it is a lifetime commitment especially when done in the presence of God. With too many vows and promises made, oaths taken, can it be severed just because a judge says so? remember words are very powerful especially those said as oaths and promises.

This is a very sensitive and important issue in our society today, so many people with their own opinions but still nobody has all the answers.
Let me know your view on this in the comment section
It will be most appreciated.

Love susu

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