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FEMINISM IN THE 21st CENTURY






What truly is feminism?

Over the years the term feminism  has been used on different occasions , by women who use the term just so they can sound woke or in-vogue while others actually understand and reflect the true meaning of the word.
Feminism is a social theory or political movement which argues that legal and social restrictions on women must be removed in order to bring about equality of the sexes in all aspects of public and private life .

Now who is a True Feminist?

A Feminist is an advocate of feminism , a person who believes in bringing about the equality of the sexes in all aspects of public and private life.
In the world today where virtually everything is done for public appraisals via social media and the internet, I have noticed that issues easily become trends that people jump on or support because at the moment it’s deemed cool and ‘woke’ to and the moment it stops trending they forget about it and just like a bad dress it’s tossed away awaiting  the next trending topic. The moment there is a move to revive the issue and push for more action, the previous supporters turn bullies who brand the move as desperate and unnecessary. That unfortunately is what the movement of feminism has turned to these days, just another trend to jump on for appearances not for the actual purpose or move for change. 

When this movement for women’s rights was first created the purpose was to help women around the world fight for their rights and place in the society , to help provide opportunities for women around the world and to be a voice for them, to educate and change the notion that women should not be educated because their place ends in their husband’s house as his personal cook, object of pleasure and trophy to sample and brag about. It’s goal was to show everyone that being a woman doesn’t make you less intelligent, less prone to success, poorer leaders than the male counterparts. It was founded so women would not looked upon as  push overs, wallpapers or made to simply exist only to follow orders or rules made by men who don’t even allow their input.
But today, it is clear to me with the things and teachings I see online that the purpose has been twisted and turned to satisfy the bitterness and hurt some women feel towards men, some what of a cult following that drags a lot of women into the wrong decisions rather than help uplift and better their lives. I have seen many self acclaimed feminists tweet and teach the most ridicules theories on feminism , always in a bid to try to undermine the part men play in the society, forgetting that equality was the whole purpose of feminism in the first place. 

Some go as far as bashing and cursing out the men at every opportunity they get and claim to be feminists and bully other women who don’t believe in their interpretation of the movement.
I personally hate associating myself with the term because of the way those who do behave. I see myself as an advocate for human rights.

I also do believe in being taken care of by my partner and pampered too , I wanna go out on a date with a guy and have him foot the bills, open the door for me, be a gentleman and  treat me like a lady generally. There is nothing wrong with that, doing that does not make me weak and it most certainly does not go against the ‘laws of feminism’. 

This unrealistic, twisted and skewed idealogy of feminism has made many women stress out, live their whole life alone while craving warmth and love, angry and depressed because they want to be the man and the woman at the same damn time. Please how do you intend to convince others that being a woman is great if you don’t even appreciate all the things that make you one? How do you intend to convince people that you can be a woman and still be successful if you act like a man all the damn time. Where is the sense in that? 
There is this stupid trend among females i see on the internet that I still don’t understand .

Almost the self acclaimed feminists. Their handles and posts are always anti-male, to be clear this doesn’t make you a feminist or show off strength, it just makes you look bitter.

I mean you can act like an independent lady without trashing the male gender or making up ridicules rules about how females should behave. (Feminism is not a cult or high society gathering)
Another thing I’ve noticed is that most people that actually jump on this trend are the ones who’ve just suffered a messy breakup or are/have had their hearts broken and feel like “oh I know everything there is to know about life, relationships and men” so they instantly become women leaders. 

I really applaud women who while  this whole facade is going on actually fight for equality, for job opportunities , equal salaries , fight against child marriage , female circumcision and core issues that actually affect women and the girl child, not the social media fighters and Justice warriors who only specialize on relationships, talking how a guy shouldn’t open doors for them cause their hands are not broken or shouldn’t do stuffs for them because they are not the weaker sex and how all women should be that way .Well sis you on your own cause that has nothing to do with feminism, it’s your own personal preference and it’s best you keep it up yourself. 

To be a true Feminist
Always remember it is not war on men, it is war on sexism and it’s role in our society today. We are fighting for equal chances for both men and women. Not that a particular gender be deemed superior over the other. 

Have a great day guys 

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